White men over about six feet tall have been shamed more and more for mentioning their picturesque verticality in their apps’ bios. This pattern has initiated a robust forum discussion, both about what it means to write these things, and what kind of mentality goes into that. Kayla Kibbe, Associate Sex & Relationships Editor over at Cosmopolitan, recently penned a feature essay rebutting men’s cries of anguish every time they’re asked about their height. She contends that these complaints point to a larger problem.
As Kibbe explains, when men are over six feet tall, they tend to carry their height on a badge of honor. When women come looking for answers, they often feel defensive and irritable. She argues that this treatment is unfair and communicates a harmful message. “They’re making a presumption about what all women want and painting us with the same passive-aggressive brush,” Kibbe stated.
Enter, the idea that women are narrow-minded or height-obsessed, which was born out of bitter men’s reactions. By using phrases such as “because, you know, that’s a thing,” they unintentionally further perpetuate harmful stereotypes regarding women’s dating preferences. As Kibbe says, this attitude is a canary in the coalmine, exposing the bad assumption beneath that will sabotage real relationships.
Dating professionals helpfully remind us that we should be searching for more than just a pretty face. Amber Soletti, a dating expert, explains that rigid standards such as height could lead individuals into a cycle of loneliness. “If you try to compromise on those types of deal-breakers, you are going to end up in a relationship with a lot of arguing, resentment and eventual demise,” Soletti warns.
Judith Gottesman, a matchmaker and dating coach, echoes this sentiment by stressing that true relationships are built on connection, respect, trust, and love rather than physical attributes like height. She represents the push to create non-negotiables rooted in deeper values rather than surface level qualities.
And all the men over six feet tall have every right to be frustrated. Kibbe strongly attests they are misdirecting their anger. Their complaints give birth to this administration’s sense of entitlement. This approach drives away the partners who value the more meaningful aspects that relationships offer.
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