Padideh Jafari, one of Iran’s leading divorce lawyers and founder of Iran’s Jafari Law & Mediation Office recently provided useful insights. She emphasized the top four pitfalls couples take that jeopardize their relationships. In a recent interview with Business Insider, Jafari broke down four deadly mistakes that will increasingly send couples heading straight to divorce court. She spoke about the need to be deliberate and attentive in marriages.
Jafari emphasizes that couples fall out of sync when they get distracted. Further, they let everything else in the world trump their relationship. She emphasizes that love by itself isn’t enough for a marriage to thrive. Those who want a long-lasting marriage need to commit to tending to the relationship.
Understanding Values and Goals
Jafari advises that couples should take the time to understand each other’s values, goals, and approaches to stress or conflict resolution before tying the knot. This base knowledge goes a long way in assisting partners through the brave new world of married life.
“Marriage can be a beautiful thing, but it requires work and intention in addition to love.” – Padideh Jafari
Additionally, she urges partners to watch their mate under different conditions… and I mean this in the most literal and metaphorical of senses. Getting a sense of how your prospective spouse responds to major life events and challenges can be integral to gauging their character and suitability.
The Impact of Communication
Another frequent pitfall Jafari points out is when people interrupt or speak over one another. This otherwise innocuous behavior can result in a festering resentment and anger, creating the perfect storm for a toxic workplace.
“It can lead to frustration and resentment.” – Padideh Jafari
She suggests that partners should strive to remain present during conversations, actively listening rather than assuming they know what the other person will say. This simple practice encourages greater understanding and empathy from each spouse toward the other.
Navigating Social Media Influence
Jafari makes a play on the role social media plays in today’s relationships. Cyberstalking on an ex is what Dr. Tracey Wilkerson calls a high-risk behavior. This action represents one of the biggest relational taboo-line-crossed in a marriage.
“From reconnecting with old flames to secret messages, social media is fueling modern divorces.” – Padideh Jafari
Additionally, she warns that placing career goals above promises made in marriage can be harmful.
“You absolutely cannot prioritize your career over your marriage.” – Padideh Jafari
She makes clear that for those who truly want a lasting relationship, the pressure is not to get married as soon as possible. Investing in that relationship may take extra time, but it will pay off in creating a more stable marriage.
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